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<<<<THE GIRLFRIEND-BOYFRIEND RELATIONSHIP>>>> Kindly give your positive comment on this...:):)

fornication has become a commonplace occurrence within the Muslim Youth community, and the Muslim girls and boys have sadly fallen prey to the snares of Western society. You may wonder how can such a situation occur when most Muslim parents vi...rtually put their children under 'lock and key'. The answer is that although most parents are strict where their children are concerned, they do not take the time to talk and explain to them about the seriousness of Zina. Instead, they give a Fatwa of "no boyfriend" when their daughters reach puberty. Such an action is like ordering a two year old child not to touch the power point. What do you think the child will do?

The following article highlights ways in which we can teach our children to shun this corrupt act.

In Islam, there is no such thing as a girlfriend-boyfriend relationship. You are either married or you are not. This is what we have to ingrain into our children at the early stage. We should not wait for them to come to us when they are teenagers to ask about girlfriend-boyfriend relationship. At this late stage, even if we forbid them to have such a relationship, how certain are we that they will obey us if they are smitten by someone? Hence, it is important that we teach our children that the only time a girl or boy can have a relationship with a non-Mahram(non-Mahram is someone whom they can marry) is when they are married! Furthermore, if a girl or boy enters into a girlfriend-boyfriend relationship then he/she is entering into a pre-marital relationship.

At the teenage level, we should not be shy to teach them the severity of pre-marital relationship. We need to make them understand that that pre-marital relationships are like the extra-marital relationships, or what is commonly known as adultery or 'an affair'. It ruins the community by corrupting the people. It unleashes base desires that, once allowed free-reign, will destroy families. We can quote to them the examples of illegitimate and abandoned children, broken homes, abortions, sexual diseases - the list goes on. We should also point out to them the punishment for sexual relationships outside of marriage: Ibn Masoud (r.a.a) related that Prophet Muhammad (s.a.w) said, "The blood of a Muslim may not be legally spilt other than in one of three instances: the married person who commits adultery, a life for a life, and one who forsakes his religion and abandons the community." [Bukhari and Muslim]. In other words, the married person who commits adultery is to be killed by stoning to death [Muslim].

But what about the unmarried person who has sexual relationships? Rest assured that this person will not go unpunished - he or she is to be caned or whipped one hundred times [Muslim]. Even in the Hereafter, the punishment is severe: the Prophet (s.a.w) saw adulterers, men and women, in a baking oven in Hellfire [Bukhari].

At this stage your teenage child may say that girlfriend-boyfriend relationships need not go as far as the sexual act; that they can control themselves and simply enjoy each others company. To counter this, you say that it is a fact when a girl and a boy are alone together, their sexual desires awaken and before they know it, they will be doing things that are not permissible between unmarried people. The reason for this is because Shaytaan will be the third person with them [Ahmad] and he will whisper and tempt them with the forbidden. This is why Islam shuns all avenues leading to corruption of the mind, body and soul.

Something else we must teach them is to restrain their desires. We can do so by giving them examples of the rewards for doing so, such as the person who controls his lust will be among people who Allah bestows mercy upon: Abu Hurairah (r.a.a) narrated that Prophet Muhammad (s.a.w) said that among the seven persons whom Allah will shade in His Shade on the Day (of Judgement) when there is no shade except His Shade, is a man who is tempted by a beautiful woman and refuses to respond for fear of Allah. [Bukhari and Muslim].

Below are more points on how to help your child, at an early age, to be chaste so that when he/she is older, he/she can avoid getting into a girlfriend-boyfriend relationship. First, you must talk and explain to them these things when they are young, then when they are older, you make sure that it is put into practice.

You must teach him or her to:

1. Not to freely mix with the opposite sex.

2. Not to look at the opposite sex. This is done by lowering or averting their eyes as Allah tells us:

Al-Quran: 24.Surah An-Nur (The Light)

Verse#30. Tell the believing men to lower their gaze (from looking at forbidden things), and protect their private parts (from illegal sexual acts, etc.). That is purer for them. Verily, Allâh is All-Aware of what they do.

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very nice dear, u r so............?

very nice dear, u r so............?

 I think boys and girls ka relationship nhi hona chaiye

 

In Islam, there is no such thing as a girlfriend-boyfriend relationship. You are either married or you are not...... is line ko smjh lena hi kafi hai.....but ppl de dunn think abt ds.....all dey wants to make frnds after dt bla bla ......huhhh ....!!

but the punishment is severe....*need to remember & understand* 

nyc post 

Sadia sis you really touch the a HOt Diseas which is prevailing badly in our society and need to be discussed more. We should follow The code Of Islam regarding this issue, as Islam is the most Modren Religion If it risticts us from any thing that must be for our profit or pice of life.

For this My Holy Prophet said ""GIVE ME THE ASSURANCE OF 2 THINGS WHICH ARE BETWEEN UR 2 JAWS AND BETWEEN UR LEGS , I WILL GIVE YOU THE ASSURANCE OF JANNAT''

SO....THINK OVER IT

 

right ..

Nice post .............. keep it up

good topic

Love is the disease and its medicene is only Marriage - Nikkah so do nikkah and please Allah its better than to love your wife and husband than to love your gf/Bf. We can make our husband our BF or Best Frnd and same wife as GF :D

VERY MUCH NICE MISS SADIA.

 

NICE POINT TO DISCUSS. HAMARI SOCIETY MEIN YEH BEHAYAI BOHAT TEZI SY PHERL RHE HY.

HUM YEH BAAT BARI THEK SY JANTY HEIN K HARAM KKAAAM KA RESULT BHE HARAM HI HOTA HY PHR BHE .......

I WANT TO ADD SOMETHING MORE IN THIS.

''BESHAK NAMAZ BURAI OR BEHAYAI KI BATOO SY ROOKTI HY''

 

SO NAMAZ QAIM KREIN. AND THIS IS THE CRITERAI FOR CHECKING YOUR NAMAZ.

behna g is ki Islam mian koee gunjaish nhi

thanksss to all 

 

result is clear :)

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