Once a sister said to her friend : “I met a committed righteous Muslim man through facebook! He likes me so much and he will ask my hand in marriage after he finishes his study”
“but how did you know he is committed and righteous” her friend asked her “all his posts on facebook are Islamic, he only shares good posts. Besides, when he chat with me, he don’t across the limits”
The friend asked her again:”but not every one who shares good Islamic posts are committed Muslims!! how can you define commitment to Deen any way? Through fb posts and words or through actions?”
“through actions of course!” she answered her
“so if this man is really righteous, he would never have Khalwah (to be alone) with you in chat! The commands of Prophet Mohammad (sallaAllahu alaihi wa sallam) are so clear :
“Not one of you should meet a woman alone unless she is accompanied by a relative (mahram)" (Bukhari/Muslim),
any righteous man would know this Hadith! If he is truly righteous, he wouldn’t speak to you behind your parents back and let you betray their trust to you.
If he is really righteous and God fearing person, he would have fear of Allah and Taqwah and never dare to talk to you knowing that Allah is watching you both! He would not talk to you and wait until he finishes his study to go to your father asking your hand in marriage from him.
Dear, this relationship you have now is not engagement! It’s a Haram relationship between a girl and her boyfriend.
If you really believe in Allah, if you really know that all your affair (including marriage) are in HIS Hands, if you believe that HE will grant you what is the best for you when you try hard to please HIM and keep your heart away from Haram, if you believe in all that then leave this relationship and if that man is written for you, you will be his Halal eventually” ♥