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Status Of Mothers In Islam .. must read very informative to all

              "بسم الله الرحمن الرحيم"

                                  In the name of Allah (God), Most Gracious, Most Merciful

 

 

All praise is for ALLAH and peace and blessings be upon the Prophet Muhammed, MayALLAH send peace and blessings upon him.

 

After Allah and his Messenger May ALLAH send peace and blessings upon him, the most beloved and respected person to a Muslim should be his mother! ALLAH has given the mother such status that He says,

 

     Paradise Lies Under The Feet Of Mothers

 

Narrated Abu Huraira:

A man came to ALLAH’s Apostle and said, “OALLAH’s Apostle! Who is more entitled to be treated with the best companionship by me?” The Prophet (pbuh) said, “Your Mother.” The man said. “Who is next?” The Prophet said, “Your Mother.” The man further said, “Who is next?” The Prophet said, “Your Mother.” The man asked for the fourth time, “Who is next?” The Prophet said, “Your father. ”

(Bukhari, Volume 8, Book 73, Number 2)

 

Obedience and respect towards your Mother is a very important duty in Islam and is similar to performing Salaah and keeping fast. To hurt your Mother in any way is the second biggest sin and those who commit this evil sin will be harshly punished by ALLAH in the hereafter or maybe even in this world!

 

Your Mother is not a Prophet, nor is she an angel; she’s just a human like you and I, so why has ALLAH ordered you to be obedient towards your Mother and why does yourMother have such a high status in Islam?

 

ALLAH loves and cares for us more than anybody else, and he especially loves those people who love and care for others. Similarly, he becomes very angry with those people who hurt other people in any way. ALLAH the All-Knowing, knows that in this world nobody is more loving and caring towards another person than the way that a mother is towards her child.Only ALLAH and his Messenger May ALLAH send peace and blessings upon him love you more than your Mother!

 

Only ALLAH knows what your Mother does for you, He sees your Mother feeling pain whilst she tries to give you whatever you want. He sees your Mother’s love and kindness. Pleased by your Mother’s actions, ALLAH has given her a very high status and many virtues and rewards.

 

ALLAH also sees that many of us are not thankful to our mothers. He sees many of us being disobedient towards them. Therefore, ALLAH has ordered us to be good towards our Mothers; he has not advised us but ordered us; we have no choice; therefore we have to be good towards our mothers! To encourage us to do this, ALLAHTaa’la has promised paradise for those of us who are obedient towards our Mothers. At the same time, ALLAH has threatened to severely punish those of us who do not listen to our mothers or hurt them in any way.

 

This is one of the most convincing things about Islam - the treatment of women in general and especially the high position Mothers hold in Islam.

Amongst the clearest examples of Islam's honoring women is the great status of the Mother in Islam. Islam commands kindness, respect and obedience to parents and specifically emphasizes and gives preference to the mother as shall be shown in this article. Islam raises parents to a status greater than that found in any other religion or ideology

 

The command to be good to one's parents begins right from the Qur'an. ALLAH says:

 

Surat An-Nisā' (The Women) - سورة النساء

Chapter 4

Verse 36

 

وَاعْبُدُوا اللَّهَ وَلَا تُشْرِكُوا بِهِ شَيْئًا ۖ وَبِالْوَالِدَيْنِ إِحْسَانًا وَبِذِي الْقُرْبَىٰ وَالْيَتَامَىٰ وَالْمَسَاكِينِ وَالْجَارِ ذِي الْقُرْبَىٰ وَالْجَارِ الْجُنُبِ وَالصَّاحِبِ بِالْجَنبِ وَابْنِ السَّبِيلِ وَمَا مَلَكَتْ أَيْمَانُكُمْ ۗ إِنَّ اللَّهَ لَا يُحِبُّ مَن كَانَ مُخْتَالًا فَخُورًا

 

Worship Allah and join none with Him in worship, and do good to parents, kinsfolk, orphans, Al-Masakin (the poor), the neighbour who is near of kin, the neighbour who is a stranger, the companion by your side, the wayfarer (you meet), and those (slaves) whom your right hands possess. Verily, Allah does not like such as are proud and boastful;

 

The mention of servitude to parents follows immediately after servitude to God. This is repeated throughout the Qur'an.

 

Surat Al-'Isrā' (The Night Journey) - سورة الإسراء

Chapter 17

Verse 23 

 

وَقَضَىٰ رَبُّكَ أَلَّا تَعْبُدُوا إِلَّا إِيَّاهُ وَبِالْوَالِدَيْنِ إِحْسَانًا ۚ إِمَّا يَبْلُغَنَّ عِندَكَ الْكِبَرَ أَحَدُهُمَا أَوْ كِلَاهُمَا فَلَا تَقُل لَّهُمَا أُفٍّ وَلَا تَنْهَرْهُمَا وَقُل لَّهُمَا قَوْلًا كَرِيمًا

 

And your Lord has decreed that you worship none but Him.And that you be dutiful to your parents. If one of them or both of them attain old age in your life, say not to them a word of disrespect, nor shout at them but address them in terms of honour.

 

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وَاخْفِضْ لَهُمَا جَنَاحَ الذُّلِّ مِنَ الرَّحْمَةِ وَقُل رَّبِّ ارْحَمْهُمَا كَمَا رَبَّيَانِي صَغِيرًا

 

And lower unto them the wing of submission and humility through mercy, and say: "My Lord! Bestow on them Your Mercy as they did bring me up when I was small."

 

The great scholar, Abu al-Faraj Ibn Al-Jawzî (d. 1201CE) explained:

 

To be kind to one's parents is: to obey them when they order you to do something, unless it is something which Allah has forbidden; to give priority to their orders over voluntary acts of worship; to abstain from that which they forbid you to do; to provide for them; to serve them; to approach them with gentle humility and mercy; not to raise your voice in front of them; nor to fix your glance on them; nor to call them by their names; and to be patient with them. (Ibn al-Jawzî, Birr al-Wâlidayn)

 

Surat Luqmān (Luqman) - سورة لقمان

Chapter 31

Verse 14

 

وَوَصَّيْنَا الْإِنسَانَ بِوَالِدَيْهِ حَمَلَتْهُ أُمُّهُ وَهْنًا عَلَىٰ وَهْنٍ وَفِصَالُهُ فِي عَامَيْنِ أَنِ اشْكُرْ لِي وَلِوَالِدَيْكَ إِلَيَّ الْمَصِيرُ

 

And We have enjoined on man (to be dutiful and good) to his parents. His mother bore him in weakness and hardship upon weakness and hardship, and his weaning is in two years give thanks to Me and to your parents, unto Me is the final destination.

 

The renowned exegete, Shaykh Abdur-Rahman As-Sa'di (d. 1956), says about this verse:

{And to your parents} meaning, be kind to your parents,shower on them love, affection and piety, both in words and deeds, treat them with tender humility, provide for them and never harm them verbally nor physically. [...] Then, Allah mentions the reason why we should be kind to our parents, when He says {His mother bore him in travail upon travail}, that is, the mother bore constant suffering; in pain and hardship from the first moment she felt the child moving in her womb to the worst pangs during the time of delivery. And {his weaning is for two years}, that is, during these two years the mother breast-feeds her child and looks after him/her. So after all the years of suffering, hardship, love and care, could we not, at least, compensate our mothers for what they have done for us and pay them back their rights?(Taysîr al-Karîm ar-Rahmân fî Tafsîr al-Kalâm al-Manân)

 

In connection to this passage, the late Grand Mufti of Pakistan, Shaykh Muhammad Shafy (d. 1976) wrote:

 

 

Mother Has More Rights Than Father:

Although the first part of this verse is a command to do good to both the parents, the second sentence refers only to the hardships suffered by the mother, because they are unavoidable, and no child can be born without them. Every mother has to go through the problems of pregnancy and severe pains of delivery. As against this, it is not necessary for a father that he suffers any hardship in bringing up and educating the child, if he can afford to pay somebody else for these services. This is why the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) has given more rights to the mother than anybody else. According to a hadîth he has said,

 

"Do good to and serve your mother, then your mother, then your mother, then your father, then the near relatives and then those who come after them."[Mazhari]

 

This sentence too describes the hardships suffered by the mother for her baby. It points out that even after suffering hardships during pregnancy and the severe labor pains, the mother does not get respite from toils, because the natural food of the infants is in her breasts, and she has to suckle them. (Shafy, Ma'âriful Qur'ân [Eng. trans.], vol. 7, pp. 795-796)

 

The Prophet Muhammad (peace and blessings be upon him) continually used to remind his followers of the status of the mother and the obligation of being good to one's parents. The following narration is a beautiful example of the noble position of the mother:

 

A man came to the Prophet and said: O Messenger of ALLAH! Who from amongst mankind warrants the best companionship from me? He replied: "Your mother." The man asked: Then who? So he replied: "Your mother." The man then asked: Then who? So the Prophet replied again: "Your mother." The man then asked: Then who? So he replied: "Then your father." (Sahîh Bukhârî 5971 and Sahîh Muslim 7/2)

 

Commenting on this hadith, Shaykh Muhammad Ali Al-Hashimi notes:

 

This hadith confirms that the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) gave precedence to kind treatment of one's mother over kind treatment of one's father (Al-Hashimi, The Ideal Muslimah, IIPH 2005, p. 165)

 

Likewise, the late Grand Mufti of Saudi Arabia, Shaykh Abdul-Azîz Ibn Bâz (d. 1999) comments on this hadith saying:

 

So this necessitates that the mother is given three times the like of kindness and good treatment than the father. (Majmoo' Fataawaa wa Maqalat Mutanawwi'ah)

 

He also writes:

 

The secret of her importance lies in the tremendous burden and responsibility that is placed upon her, and the difficulties that she has to shoulder - responsibilities and difficulties some of which not even a man bears. This is why from the most important obligations upon a person is to show gratitude to the mother, and kindness and good companionship with her. And in this matter, she is to be given precedence over and above the father.[...] And I have no doubt that my mother - may Allah shower His mercy upon her - had a tremendous effect upon me, in encouraging me to study; and she assisted me in it. May Allah greatly increase her reward and reward her with the best of rewards for what she did for me. (Majmoo' Fatawa wa Maqalat Mutanawwi'ah)

 

The Prophet Muhammad (peace and blessings be upon him) also said in a famous narration:

 

'Paradise lies at the feet of your mother' [Musnad Ahmad, Sunan An-Nasâ’i, Sunan Ibn Mâjah]

 

What can be greater evidence of honoring women than this? Islam has effectively placed the ultimate reward for human beings in their devotion to their mothers.

Shaykh Ibrahîm Ibn Sâlih Al-Mahmud writes:

 

Treat your mother with the best companionship, then your father; because paradise is under the mother's feet. Never disobey your parents, nor make them angry, otherwise you will live a miserable life in this world and the hereafter, and your children will treat you likewise. Ask your parents gently if you need something. Always thank them if they give it to you, and excuse them if they do not, and never insist on a matter if they refuse to give you something. (Al-Mahmoud, How to be kind to your Parents, p.40)

 

It is related from Talhah ibn Mu'âwiyah as-Salamî who said:

 

I came to the Prophet and said, "O Messenger of ALLAH, I want to perform Jihad in the way of ALLAH. He asked, "Is your mother alive?" I replied, "Yes." The Prophet then said: "Cling to her feet, because paradise is there." (at-Tabarânî).

 

Shaykh Nidhaam Sakkijihaa comments:

 

Cling to her feet means to submit yourself to her, be close to her, protect her, serve her because in this is Paradise and with her satisfaction you will enjoy the good blessings ofALLAH. (Sakkijihaa, Honoring the Parents, p. 52)

 

The Prophet Muhammad (peace and blessings be upon him) showed us the importance of serving one's parents in the following narration reported by Abdullah Ibn Mas'ud:

 

I asked the Prophet, 'O Messenger of ALLAH, what is the best deed?' He replied 'Prayer offered on time.' I asked, 'What is next in goodness?' He replied, 'To be dutiful and kind to one's parents.' I further asked, 'What is next in goodness?' He replied, 'Jihad in the ALLAH's cause. [Sahîh Bukhârî, Sahîh Muslim]

 

Just as the Prophet said that kindness to one's parents was of the best deeds, he also said that disobedience to them was amongst the major sins:

 

"The greatest sins are to associate partners in worship with ALLAH, to be undutiful or unkind to one's parents, to kill a soul forbidden by ALLAH and to bear false witness." [Sahîh Bukhârî]

 

Even after the Prophet Muhammad (peace and blessings be upon him), the Muslim scholars continued to stress the importance of being dutiful to one's mother. By examining the conduct and teachings of the early Muslim scholars, one may see how the direct recipients of the Islamic message understood the command to be dutiful to one's parents. Their behavior towards their parents shows Muslims how one is to implement the teachings of the Prophet on honoring parents.

 

Abdullah Ibn Abbâs (d. 687CE), a companions of the Prophet and a great scholar of Islam, considered kind treatment of one's mother to be the best deed for strengthening or rectifying one's relation with God. He said:

 

I know of no other deed that brings people closer to ALLAH than kind treatment and respect towards one's mother. [Al-Adab al-Mufrad Bukhârî 1/45]

 

An even more powerful example is found in the statement of another one of the Prophet's companions, Abdullah Ibn 'Umar (d. 692CE), who was also a great scholar of Islam. It has been related that:

 

Abdullah Ibn 'Umar saw a Yemeni man performing Tawâf (circumambulating the Ka'bah) while carrying his mother on his back. This man said to Abdullah Ibn 'Umar, "I am like a tame camel for her! I have carried her more than she carried me. Do you think I have paid her back, O Ibn 'Umar?" Abdullah Ibn 'Umar replied, "No, not even one contraction!!" [Al-Adab al-Mufrad Bukhârî 1/62]

 

SubhânAllah (Glory be to God)! The efforts of a man who carries his mother on his back while performing tawâf cannot even repay his mother for a single contraction that she went through for him. Wise indeed was Ibn 'Umar's reply to this man to show him how massively indebted he was to his mother. This is the tremendous value and prestigious position of mothers in Islam!

 

Yet another example is found in the following prophecy of Prophet Muhammad (peace and blessings be upon him):

 

There will come to you with reinforcements from Yemen a man called Uways ibn 'Âmir of the clan of Murâd from the tribe of Qaran. He had leprosy but has been cured of it except for a spot the size of a coin. He has a mother and he has always treated her with kindness and respect. If he prays to ALLAHALLAH will fulfill his wish. If you can ask him to pray for forgiveness for you, then do so. [Sahîh Muslim 16/95]

 

Indeed, later on 'Umar ibn al-Khattâb met Uways who was exactly as the Prophet described, and upon 'Umar's request Uways prayed for him. Commenting on this narration, Shaykh Muhammad Ali Al-Hashimî writes:

 

What a high status Uways reached by virtue of his kindness and respect towards his mother, so that the Prophet recommended his Sahabah [companions] to seek him out and ask him to pray for them!

 

All of this indicates the high status to which Islam has raised the position of motherhood, and given the mother precedence over the father. At the same time, Islam has given importance to both parents, and has enjoined kindness and respect to both. (Al-Hashimi, The Ideal Muslimah, IIPH 2005, p. 167)

 

So great was the Islamic emphasis on parents, that the Muslims considered a great opportunity to attain paradise in service to one's mother. Iyâs Ibn Mu'âwiyah was a famous Islamic scholar from the second generation of Muslims. When his mother died, Iyâs Ibn Mu'âwiyah cried. He was asked, "Why do you cry?" He said, "I used to have two gates open to Paradise, now one of them is closed."

 

Zayn al-'Abidîn (d. 713CE) was the great grandson of the ProphetMuhammad (peace and blessings be upon him) and also a renowned scholar. He used to treat his mother with so much kindness and love as seen in the following narration:

 

Once he was asked, 'You are the most kind person to his mother, yet we have never seen you eating with her from a single dish.' He replied, 'I fear that my hand would take the what her eyes have already seen in the dish, and then I would be disobeying her'. [At-Tartushi, Birr al-Wâlidayn]

 

In other words, he was so careful not to disobey his mother that he would even avoid eating out of the same plate as her; He thought that she would see a morsel and intend to take it, but before she did he might unknowingly take that same morsel and eat it. This is how careful he was to obey his mother in the most minute details.

 

Surat Al-'Isrā' (The Night Journey) - سورة الإسراء

Chapter 17

Verse 23

 

وَقَضَىٰ رَبُّكَ أَلَّا تَعْبُدُوا إِلَّا إِيَّاهُ وَبِالْوَالِدَيْنِ إِحْسَانًا ۚ إِمَّا يَبْلُغَنَّ عِندَكَ الْكِبَرَ أَحَدُهُمَا أَوْ كِلَاهُمَا فَلَا تَقُل لَّهُمَا أُفٍّ وَلَا تَنْهَرْهُمَا وَقُل لَّهُمَا قَوْلًا كَرِيمًا

 

And your Lord has decreed that you worship none but Him. And that you be dutiful to your parents.If one of them or both of them attain old age in your life, say not to them a word of disrespect, nor shout at them but address them in terms of honour.

 

Another early Islamic scholar, Sa'îd Ibn Al-Musayyib (d. 709CE), was asked about the meaning of the verse "but address them in terms of honor" (17:23)Sa'îd Ibn Al-Musayyibreplied:

 

It means that you should address them as a servant addresses his master.

 

Muhammad Ibn Sirîn (d. 729CE) used to speak to his mother in a very soft voice, out of respect for her. He was also often seen in the company of his mother and looking after her. (Ibn al-Jawzî, Birr al-Wâlidayn)

 

All that has preceded shows how the status of mothers - and consequently that of women - is elevated to the highest position in Islam. The honor Islam has given to mothers is beyond that found in any other religion, ideology or culture. This is clear proof of the lofty status of Muslim Women.

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Comment by Muhammad Faheem Iqbal on December 7, 2011 at 3:59pm

NICE Sharing SADIA SIS

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Comment by Ayaz Khaskheli on December 5, 2011 at 8:57pm

Jazakallah and Very Informative.

Comment by Shabbir Ali Jafferi on December 5, 2011 at 4:06pm

Behna its Really awsome, this stuff made me remember my family. thnks behna 

Comment by ♦Јυѕŧ 4 ŜніпŒ♦ on December 5, 2011 at 2:31pm

thanks sadia ali for i really love this thought  and appreciate this from my heart because i love my mom

Comment by sadia ali on December 5, 2011 at 2:28pm

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Comment by Seal Heart on December 5, 2011 at 2:14pm

hmmmm aisa hy k hum waldeen ki hamiyet ko kaisy bhula sakty hain jin ki mughfrat or bhali ko Allah ny namaz ka ek zarrori juz bana diaya hay. par hum hain k un ki hmiyeit ko samjh nahi patay. even main khud aksar owkat apni maa se sakhat lahijy main baat kar jati hon :( bad main buhat shame feel karti hon... ap sub se requst hy plz pary for me k main apni maa k samny aisy bat na kr sakun.. koshish to buhat hoti hy par shaid ap main se kisi ki dua kaam ajye thanks :'(

Comment by +-- Mirza Mohid fsd --+ on December 5, 2011 at 2:14pm

"MAA tujhey Salam".......

May Allah Bless us and our parents always....

Comment by Seal Heart on December 5, 2011 at 2:10pm

Meri ammi ko bulaa d...e koi
Warna mujhko hi sulaa de koi
Mujhko bistar ki to aadat hi nahin
Apni godi main jhulaa de koi
Shayad aa jaayen wo rona sunkar
Mujh ko bewajah rulaa de koi
Mainey kaee roz se nahin khaya
Us mohabbat se khilaa de koi
Mujhko khwaahish nahin miley duniya
Mujhko ammi se milaa de koi…<3

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