Have you ever thought about what you really want to do in your life? Hang on, this is not an inspiration from '3 Idiots'.
This simple yet tricky question can be answered probably in 101 ways but still, the most likely responses may vary from person to person, e.g. "I have never thought about life that way" or "I don't know!" Although we all have a wish list in our minds which can best be described in Ghalib's words as 'Hazaron khuahishein aisi ke her khuahish pey dam nikley'; but this wish list is about 'what we want' in our lives and not about 'what we want to do' in our lives! In fact, most of us are not very clear about the difference between these two statements. Frankly, I am also not very clear because I think that if you know what you want in life, you would also find out how to get it.
So, the ultimate puzzle is 'what is it that you want in your life?' To solve this puzzle, one must clearly define his/her vision and mission statement of life. To me, this statement is vital both for men and women; however, male chauvinists argue that since women can't think of doing much in life as a large part of their world revolves around their hubby and children, there should not be any mission statement for women. In fact, some extremist males take a step further in this direction and declare that mission of a woman ends with her successful marriage. This prejudicial statement may sound convincing to many male bigots but notwithstanding anything contained in it, I sincerely believe that both men and women, in our country, are not utilising their abilities and potential to the maximum. The primary reason for this underutilisation of valuable human resource is that we spend most part of our lives as a clueless creature. But I am not concerned here about how to utilise this potential rather my interest lies in the fact how men and women see life in different perspectives. Men's top priority in life is their career whereas women's main concern is marriage. If you ask a man to prioritise his goals in life, he would come up with something like this:
a) Job/business yielding monthly income in lacs if not in millions;
b) Marrying a lady having mind blowing looks and figure.
Women, on the other hand, would prioritise their dreams as under:
a) Marrying a man having monthly income in lacs if not in millions;
b) If dream 'a' doesn't come true, reduce the above income slab a bit further.
As far as these 'goals and dreams' are concerned, I think that these cannot be termed as life goals for any potential man or woman. To me, life goal should be larger than life. As the saying goes "Shoot for the moon. Even if you miss, you'll land among the stars." This, however, may look difficult to most of us because we tend to shoot for the moon residing next door and when we miss, we think our life is over.
So the riddle remains unresolved. What to do and how to do it? In my opinion, if someone is clear about the answer of the first part of the riddle, he/she would easily resolve the second part of the riddle which constitutes not more than twenty per cent of the problem. Having said this, however, I am often perplexed about some people, very few though, who are neither clear about what to do in their life nor they have the faintest idea as to how to get things done, yet they succeed.
Surprisingly, these few people are not even blessed with exceptional qualities and that in turn further complicates this paradox. However, while looking at the lives of these people, we tend to forget a couple of things. First, extraordinary hard work is involved throughout their life; second, more than one generation dedicates itself solely to one particular area or field where they earn goodwill for generations to come. So if you are ready to spend your life in this way, you will definitely succeed. The other option, which is more methodical, is to define life goals with a clear mind, prioritise them and then strive to achieve them. You will definitely end up achieving them within your lifetime. There is a third option as well and that is "the best way to succeed in life is to start from scratch and keep scratching." Good luck for the rest of your life!